If you’ve ever wondered whether you’d benefit from therapy, or feel nervous about taking that first step, it’s important to know that you are not alone. This week, we’re spending some time to talk about some of the reasons why people decide to come to therapy, as well as what to expect at your first counselling session, and what kind of support and guidance you’ll receive throughout this journey.
Managing our feelings is a skill – or a set of skills – that we should have learned as we were growing up. But disorganised attachment, trauma and distress may mean that we’re not yet equipped to deal with what we’re presented with in life.
Feelings can hurt – but what often hurts more are the things we do to avoid the feeling in the first place. The struggles in our lives feel overwhelming and impossible to share with others. A wide range of issues including anxiety, depression, PTSD, abuse (recent or historic), self-esteem and low confidence, relationship issues, or health anxiety could be the reason we seek out therapy. A change in circumstances such as divorce, unemployment or bereavement are also some of the things that can make our everyday life feel more difficult to cope with.
These issues or changes in circumstances may highlight that we don’t yet have these skills – but doesn’t mean to say that we can’t learn them. By going to therapy, you’ll be supported in the exploration of your feelings and learn modelling methods that can bring these feelings under control – giving you the space to find your way forward.
“Scars remind us where we’ve been. They don’t have to dictate where we’re going” (David Rossi).
Together, and in a safe, non-judgemental space we can work through these difficult thoughts and feelings, exploring them and discovering the underlying sources so you can face them fully and begin to start feeling them again.
I know that seeking support can feel very daunting, so I take care at the initial session to explain the counselling process, explore your expectations and needs, and give you time to consider whether we can work together.
After this, we can discuss a commitment of a further 6-12 sessions if you have a specific issue you want to work on or would prefer a longer open-ended agreement for working through deeper issues.
Find out more about Counselling at Whole Harmony.
I believe trust is central in building a successful therapeutic relationship so I provide a warm, empathic, non- judgemental space where we can explore, in complete confidentiality, whatever has led you to counselling.
Written by Ewa Rudz
To find out more about Ewa and her experience as an Integrative Relational practitioner, view her profile.